Originally Posted by
steve-in-kville 
When do we really, truly know we've accepted the hurts of the past and learned to let go?
for me there was much more than accepting then letting go. i looked at every instance and used it to learn what makes me tick- just trying to stuff it or forget it never worked for me. it always came back up and i TRIED to drink it away.
after learning from it, i went out and made amends the best i could-not just saying im sorry, but explainingthe how and why of my part, how i should have handled it, and what ive done to changed.
EXCEPT when to do so would injure them or others.