My ex agf exhibited a kind of bi polar love. When in a calm mood she expressed her “love” for me but then in her addictive state, her actions didn’t match her words. Then she would apologize for her actions afterwards. Very Jeckyl and Hyde ish. I believe that when they are too overwhelmed with their self loathing, pity and stinking-thinking, they cannot love. But in their rare moments of calmness, they do love...but it’s fleeting. That’s why it’s tortuous for us “normies”.
Originally Posted by
Nata1980 
And that, my little children, is the truth!
Anvil wins this thread.
I, too, had some happy times with my qualifier. Now, looking back, I see it for what it is - as it was, unfortunately, very shallow.