People change. One of my best friends was definite a party buddy. So was his wife. Big time.
They are now parents. They still drink and smoke a little weed, but nothing like they used to.
In my 40s i had a group of friends who drank so much we were called the Liquor Locusts. We have all changed, they came to visit me in rehab every sunday. Wine was a big part of our socializing, both st our parties and wine tasting up in wine country. They still drink, but not like they used to.
Most of my friends are normies. They are people with whom i have a lot of history and a great deal in common. A few people i met in rehab i still keep im touch.
Other than sobriety, i havent found a lot of friends or common ground in 12 step.
Being around normies isnt a big trigger for me. Any serious drinking buddies i had are sober, dead or way out of my life.