Originally Posted by
Strugglingtoget 
So, I know this was best for "my sobriety" but it also feels like another loss -- I get to be a hermit, hiding out in church basements with the kind of people who need to hide out in church basements. Not exactly the way I wanted to live out my life.
Lissen up strugglingtoget's AV...
There's actually a million options between going out with your ex on one hand and being a hermit on the other whether it's in church basements or staying home,, curtains drawn and lights out
Maybe some of the other basement dwellers have some social activities going?
Maybe you can think of things to do that need not involve alcohol - movies, museums, art galleries, coffee dates, sports, hobbies and interests.
For every social occasion you make the decision not to go to this years there'll be 20 or 30 occasions down the road where you will feel strong enough to go anywhere and do anything.
This is not the best things get
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