Am I making excuses?
Hi Rosie:
I think you're doing a great job. Ala-non teaches us to have our boundries, enforce them as best we can by using kindness, courtesy and respect when warranted. I was told this equals "assertiveness". I try to practice these steps when dealing with the "A". Remember one explanation for Alcoholism "is the inability to deal with reality". I look at my "A" and he looks so lost and I feel very sad as we are so compatible and have been married for many years. Alcoholism is a very lonely disease. I just cannot live indefinitely with Alcoholism.
I was told years ago regarding another matter......"When the time is right, you will intuitively know". I don't know if my "A" did/will drink today? When the time is right and I've done all I feel I can do.......time to move on if that's what my Higher Power and I decide is best for me.
I'm 63 y/o and I really don't want to be alone at my age, however, I also don't want to be unhappy. So, time will tell. Literally, one day at a time.
((Special Hugs to you, Rosie))