Originally Posted by
laur24 
I just now "got" this! It's not him that isn't ready for a relationship! It's me!
My mind is blown. I'm in the process of step 5 right now, and I'm realizing he didn't need to change or do anything for me to be okay. I thought HE was the one that needed to work on himself. I thought HE needed to be more emotionally available.
I can't stop chuckling at myself now at how out of touch my 'goodbye' text to him was.
Oh well! Moving on with my sobriety now
I'm very happy you got what I meant. It's a big step forward.
Also, it's a matter of taking responsibility for your own happiness. It's very empowering and a cause for much hope, because you CAN work on you, but you can't change anyone else.
Yup, you need to keep on moving... ain't nothing gonna break your stride. (You might be a 70s music gal, but I'm an 80s one. )
It still might be a case of two steps forward and one step back. But the important thing is to point yourself in the right direction ... which means looking forward to a happy healthy future with someone, when YOU have done the work and are ready.
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