Originally Posted by
2muchpain 
First I want to say congrats of 5 weeks. That's amazing. You have managed to find a way that works for you and that's great.
But IMHO, it's just not that easy for some. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you feel if people were less weak and stronger in their convictions to not drink, than that would be enough.
I think most people need support to not only quit drinking, but in helping them deal with the reasons why they drank in the first place. Many people drink to deal with stressors. How are these people suppose to deal with why their drinking, put a cork in the bottle and say bring it on. I just think there's more to quitting than just quitting, but I'm glad you found a way that works for you. Nice going!! John
thanks 2muchpain. After many years of trying to think my way out, going to therapy with lousy results, feeling emotional, angry etc, the least helpful thing to quit drinking is getting into the muck that makes me want to drink, Logic didn't get me into this place and logical thinking ain't going to get me out. There's only one way to the end of jungle trail, one step at a time forward, minimize looking back. Maybe in the clear where it's safe it's time to look back . But for me I'm fed up with looking back - it makes me feel lousy.
tomorrow is gone i can't fix it, i can't change it, today is what i have.
what i know does work is a health scare, I've met people in some free alcohol counselling programs that attended because weeks before they were throwing up blood, coughing up blood, crapping out blood... and rushed to emergency depts where doctors say if u drink again u will die. That ends your drinking faster than analysis and pussyfooting around the problem. you don't want to get to that point, ... and these were high functioning professionals , late 30s and 40s.
you really have to change your thinking and just say, today is the end.
i am going to have to quit one day, and i may as well get that day over with asap and get on with my life rather than prolonging the agony of starting and stopping and moderating . . . uggg.
Originally Posted by
Maudcat Congratulations, Bob!
thanks Maudcat !
Originally Posted by
Anarock I wish this would work for me! But I really have to watch what I eat and count calories in order not to gain weight.
I can’t sub food in all the time.
I was doing it and gained so much weight. Being obese is just as bad as drinking.
i am a bit on the obese side now but it's way more important to not drink at all and then i can eat healthier along the way, more salads, more celery and carrot sticks as snaks to fend of hunger but not drinking means saving 300-500 calories per drink per day, and drinking - the sugar messes with metabolism and contributes to type 2 diabetes.
Eating more for a few weeks to get on the right path is win - win.
not drinking means i get out walking more, and then short walks turn into 1 hour walks, and then they get faster... my diet gets better, i feel better, i want to eat better food, my metabolism increases i start to lose weight.... a lot of wins there. maybe soon i'll be back jogging again.
I don't think multiquote worked completely... hmm
ok kids get back on the wagon if you are not already there.
one day. don't drink today.