Originally Posted by
Smarie78 
Last time we spoke he told me he knows I want other men. He said I can't help it because it's who I am (me, as in a former promiscuous woman). I know not to take his words seriously, but it really struck me as maybe it is who I think I am and that is why I have stayed with him for so long.
I can relate this all too well. Instead of worrying about our marriage and maybe that his addiction brought so much chaos, confusion and pain, he proceeded to tell me: I know you are probably seeing other men.
He is the one man I have been loyal with, shared my vows, my life, we had a child together. I took those vows so seriously, I sacrificed everything to keep this marriage together and it really hurts to hear he bring out my past. I learnt from my past and the past doesn't define me, but hearing him say those things really trigger a lot of hurt and pain.
I think it will get better and our hard work will help us start to believe that.