Originally Posted by
seasaw 
... I could have sworn we had a post as/in one of the stickies that was called something like 'What Is Guilt?'...
Do you mean this one? It's not a flowchart, but it's the closest I could find.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ing-guilt.html (Handling Guilt)
Originally Posted by
seasaw ...NC year 4 now; ...
Wow! Congratulations
Originally Posted by
seasaw ... and I got off the phone with her right away. I said 'i can see i've upset you, let's talk when you're feeling better' and just hung right up....
Goodness, it took me years and years to get to that point. You're doing that No Contact much faster than I did.
Originally Posted by
seasaw ...As my therapist says, at some point the State will take over. ...
Yup. I don't know about your part of the world, but over here you can call the cops and have them do a "wellness" check on elderly people who need medical help.
Originally Posted by
seasaw ... I totally suffer from terrible depression but I'm learning ways to make it quieter. ...
Well yeah, from what you have described it seems clear to me that you had a totally depressing childhood. Those emotional injuries don't shake off in just a day or two.
Originally Posted by
seasaw ... I can't think of how 4 years-ago me would have thought of now-me!! ...
I think your recovery rocks. And I totally appreciate that you stop by every now and then so the newbies can see that recovery is possible, and wonderful.
Mike