You do sound happy DA, that is great to hear. I cannot even imagine the challenge you are going through right now, it is tough in the best of circumstances but a very important step to finally be free to be yourself. I know my brother had a very difficult time coming out to my mother as a gay man and my mother is a lesbian! Of anyone she would surely understand being homosexual, but yet it was still a very hard thing for him to do. So, if you have someone like your mother who really does not understand I can imagine it is a million times more painful and difficult. I agree with Anna though, for now I would not even worry about that. Right now you just worry about your, your work with your psychologist and gender therapist and your relationship with your husband.
Now you are finally blossoming into your true self, do not let anything cloud your brain as you finally become free. I hope your psychologist can help you with your eating disorder and self-harm as well as your alcoholism.
Sending you warm thoughts.