Travisss,
It may seem complicated, yet it really is as simple as letting go and letting God. The blame, the negative feelings, the worry... those were my roadblocks and I couldn't move them. It's the same for all of us ... when I go to open AA meetings, I can relate. This is a family disease. It effects all of us.
So the answer isn't in all the crap we can't change... the answer is in BELIEVING that good things are possible for us, Right. Where. We. Are.
Pray. Hit another meeting. Buy some sidewalk chalk or colored paper and markers and tell your wife and the kids "Hi!" ... "Good morning!
" "Have a beautiful day." in new ways with no pressure, no expectations.
A huge part of recovery is doing EVERYTHING differently. This opens up the heart and mind to new ways of seeing and experiencing life.