Originally Posted by
ScottFromWI 
Even if you are not using AA, the concept of step on and accepting/acknowledging/surrendering that we cannot drink safely is probably the most important thing to do In my opinion. If you don't define what the problem is, you can never solve it, right?
This above: We are powerless over alcohol. We do not have the ability to quit on your own. You really need to accept that and realize all of your willpower is not enough. Only when I realized I could not do it alone did I really have a chance. I used SR and I prayed for help. As in so many things, when I gave up control and prayed for guidance it worked.