Thank you so much everyone.
I have certainly learnt a lot in just the short time I've been on this forum.
I have found an al-anon group near me and I have also shared with my partner that I would like to go. He was receptive to me going but said he didn't think he had that serious of a problem. He said he was just stressed at the moment and drinking is just him coping. Typical addict talk.
Currently the only issue I have with his drinking is his health. Even when drunk he is loving and kind and gentle. But I'm not willing to do nothing and let it escalate.
So my plan is to go to the group and get more information for ME and what my plan is for MY life. I'm scared and sad that the plan to be with this man for the rest of my life might not be the right one, but I'm also willing to give him a chance to recognise his problem and make an effort. Does that sound reasonable or disillusioned?