LoveOeace Sushi......don't hold your breath.....lol....
There is a reason that most marriage counselors will not see a couple if active addiction in in the picture....
How do you figure that going to something that you don't want to--but he does--is working on your marriage?
Yes, your going will pacify him a bit...because it looks to me like he is trying to throw you some breadcrumb of fresh "hope" so that you will be corralled....
It takes two people being highly motivated, together to work on a marriage.
I see him, from what you share, to be highly motivated to get his own way...regardless of your needs and feelings. Apparently, you have gone to the sporting event a gazillion times, already....how did that help the marriage, in the past.....
Perhaps, a person who really wanted to preserve their marriage would strive to become sober, as a first move?!
If he ain't sober, ain't nothing going to improve the marriage relationship.....(informal language...lol)
Personally, I am not against hope, in itself...but, not as a substitute for reality.....
I think you know, inside, what the reality is....
Around here, you will hear..."Hope is not a plan".......