Active Alcoholism creates problems: problems with family, with neighbors, with depression, with communication, with everything.
Consider for a moment that you're going to get nowhere as long as you drink. Then put down the drink, commit to AA and see what happens.
AA is only scary if you don't feel like quitting. Once you're ready, it becomes a haven, a safe place, a place of peace.
Quit first. Then address problems. Guarantee you have created most of them because of drinking. They won't be resolved without sobriety.
Been there done that, currently throwing out the T- shirts. Good riddance to those old rags.