Originally Posted by
Maudcat 
Hi, BrunetteBabe.
Welcome to SR.
Well, there is a lot going on in your life right now.
I think your ex is a hot mess and you are probably well rid of him, though it doesn't seem that way just now.
I also think, my opinion only, mind, that your mom and friend John should stay out of the situation.
So how about we all take a step back, and breathe?
You are heartbroken and sad, and I hope that in time your pain eases.
It would probably benefit you to go no contact with your ex for a while.
Good luck.
I appreciate that alot thank you. I just want some more insight, and my mom isn't trying to to be involved because she blocked him and called her friend who he lives with, and my ex got on the other home phone and was just acting belligerent and mouthing off. They both are trying to stay out of it. He is the one that keeps it going. But I appreciate your support.