Originally Posted by
Dee74 
Abstinence is a fundamental part of recovery but I think it's only a part of recovery.
The rest of recovery for me has been learning to deal with all the stuff I used to drink over....or what I usually call building a sober life I love.
I don't want to escape from a life I love.
Maybe more support, or using the support you have more, would help in times of sadness or fear wildflower?
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This resonated with me. I haven't gone to any meetings yet, but as a lover of all things psychology, I looked into the basis of them and was surprised to learn that only the first step actually addresses alcohol. The rest of the steps are things that even everyday people, forget alcoholics, should look at more closely. It's how to deal with life, so that you feel less and less inclined to drink to resolve issues or gain any sense of "self".
Thinking of you, Wildflower, and I'm still new to this so I'm afraid I don't have any good insight to give you, but just try and take some comfort in the fact that you're definitely not alone.