My son is currently in jail and I agree that it is very difficult to leave a loved one in jail. Finding this website has saved my sanity. I am learning coping skills and i'm seeing how much I have enabled my AS to keep using for the past 10 years. I don't want to be responsible for enabling him ever again. It is very hard to talk to him because he begs me to bail him out by selling his truck and using his money. In fact I have started avoiding his phone calls because it is just the same old conversation over and over again. If I did sell his truck and belongings to get him out of jail and he says her wants to hire an attorney...he will have nothing to live on when he is released. I will be responsible for helping him get back on his feet AGAIN!! Plus...he has a court appointed attorney. I think you should leave your sibling in jail...my son is 31 and it is way past time that he learns to be responsible for his actions...good and BAD!!! Sending you many hugs and well wishes.