Great post Thomas, thank you.
I like newcomers -like reading the stories of people who have long term sobriety and listening to new people who are just starting out. But I know what you mean, it can be quite depressing. You sound like a very empathetic person which is probably why you feel as you do maybe?
I get the judgment thing. Maybe some of us are just so raw and frustrated with our own issues plus have mental health issues some stuff comes across as judgmental. it's also difficult when, as you say, there is no intonation or body language.
Maybe just read what helps you ?