Thank you for your kind replies. One of my brothers had a chat with him yesterday and apparently it is "under control, his wife knows and is ok with it as long as it doesn't get out of hand, it's just a glass of wine a day... "
but my other brother caught him buying a bottle of whisky (did I already say that,,?). But apparently that's the first time he has bought whisky. While his wife is away..
My brother believed him. I really don't know what to think. He (my dad) was supposed to Skype me today. I've been waiting all evening, he just texted to say he is out and will try me on Wednesday (2 days away). So he either doesn't realise how this might be affecting is, doesn't care, is completely insensitive or is embarrassed/ashamed/hiding something..
I mean, is it possible that he has it "under control" after 9 months? Or is he (am I) deluding himself (myself)?
I feel devastated.