Stacy, welcome to SR. I'm glad you found us here, but sorry that you're in a situation where you needed to go looking for this sort of help.
It's great that you've educated yourself about alcoholism--it sounds like you've definitely done your homework. It's also good that you're reaching out for support even if AH won't look for help for himself. I'd like to suggest Alanon for some f2f support as well as coming here to read and post. Alanon and SR were a good combo for me and have really helped me to learn and grow.
I hope you can take some time and read around the forum. There is a tremendous amount of experience, strength and hope here. I would also recommend checking out the "stickies"--here is a link showing how and where to find them, if you haven't seen them already:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...find-them.html
Again, welcome. I wish you strength and clarity going forward, and I hope to hear more from you in the days to come.