Originally Posted by
leanabeana 
She apologized last night but I don't expect total understanding from her yet.
lb,
probably a good idea to not expect total understanding EVER.
it's an unreasonable expectation.
and total understanding is not required in order to be supportive.
i actually like how you say she responded: she can't engage right now because she has her own problems.
that leaves a good opening for the future, and is not dismissive but in the vein of her taking care of herself and her problems and setting a boundary around that.
any of that make sense to you?