You may have 'lost' someone you used to consider a friend. Although I think using the word 'lost' in this context is odd (something an AV might say perhaps???!!!!) It's a bit like being treated for head lice then saying we 'lost' them.
The reality is that most of us come to sobriety with some baggage. Often that baggage is in the shape of slippery people. So, yep, sometimes people we used to consider friends need to go - especially if in getting sober we start to realise that they are in fact abusive.
I think you are right in seeing this as a blessing, and resolving to focus on your sobriety now.
You can make the decision not to be hurt and upset. You weren't being RID. He was behaving like a jerk and you didn't put up with it. And that is fine. You did the sensible thing and asked him to give you some space (a lot more polite than he perhaps deserved). When he says he can't handle you, perhaps he means he can't manipulate and walk all over you any more. If that's spoiled his fun, then GOOD!! He could easily have come over and apologised for acting like a jerk and offered to help clean up the mess he created. He didn't choose that. He chose to get defensive of his actions like a child. Honestly. You DO deserve better.
You say you don't know what to do. Well, sometimes we don't actually need to DO anything. The most important thing is (as you well know) Do Not Drink!!! (Why would you drink and open yourself up to repeating the pattern of submitting to further abuse?) You can make new and better friends over time. Ones who want to support you and make you happy, rather than finding entertainment in sabotaging your efforts to make your home comfortable and clean, and making you feel badly about yourself. There are various ways to do this: Get to meetings; Join up to volunteer to help a good cause and meet other kind and loving people; Explore your own interests with other like-minded people by joining clubs or groups; Get involved / more involved at church or in community events... Sure, it may take a little time, but meanwhile this guy was not much of a friend - he is no loss.
Hugs to you SC xxx