Welcome amandasue....
You mentioned your Mom being unhappy. Do you know, did she go to Al-Anon.??
Al-Anon gives us face to face people, with the right meetings, we find good friends, and a sponser.
This is a fantastic site and feel free to ask questions, vent whatever, but I feel we need an Al-Anon group also, we need both.
I will say no more till find out if you go to Al-Anon or not. You may know more than I do. (smile)
Keep coming back.