Wpainter,
Spinning up means...feeding her fears, indirectly supporting etc etc...
I was certain...bottles of wine left open in the pantry...meant a state of drunkenness for your friend at least.
I was offering support. It helps me when I do that.
I may have misread your post.
Please forgive me for offending you.
My slang/lack or regard for proper American English didn't help my efforts.
Thanks.