Originally Posted by
TheFool 
I found an alanon meeting but its on a day we've always kept for "us". If I do that he'll be on his own upset...a danger for him? X
just from my experience, if someone is going to be in a relationship with an A, it is helpful to have your own plan of recovery.
If it's important for him to attend meetings, maybe it might be important for you to attend some too
Also, it was a long hard life when I based all my decisions, activities and events on making sure my now ex AH was protected from being where he could drink or use. And my efforts didn't work either -
what I learned if someone is going to drink or use - it doesn't matter what I do - they will go to any lengths.
Don't give up before the miracles happen in you - you deserve it.