I stayed away from any and all alcohol related events for a whole year. I took no prisoners and didnt care what people thought. My good friends are all very supportive and now i am in a very good place, so i dont mind being at a BBQ with drinking now. I still wont go to a bar, mainly because i think it would be really boring anyways: granted im 43y/o married with 3 kids, so im bogged down nightly regardless.