Dealing with people that never let you forget
Hi. I'm running close to 4 months sober now. My body is feeling great. Feeling wise it's ok with little ups and little downs. Cravings are gone. Things are going well.
Most people around me are supportive. But I have one sister, who seems to never let me forget my drinking days and she tells me in ways that is mean and spiteful.
My mother has done a lot for my sister. Wakes up early, takes her kids to school, picks them up, takes them to all their extra curricular actives. Pays for my sisters kids clothes, pays for my sisters eye surgery. My sister is married with a husband. I felt that both take advantage of her, and do not do anything in return. When they showed up at my mom's 70th birthday with no present, I called my sister selfish. Nothing less nothing more. And I said it in a way that was not accusing etc.
(I understand, my mom needs to set boundaries, I shouldn't come between them, but my sister is overstepping on the poor lady)
Well she went on a rampage on my drinking and bringing up every quality of my drinking. Saying things like i have nothing to show for in my life etc.
Her thinking is, because she is not an alcoholic, she is redeemed of every negative quality about herself.
How to deal with those types of people?