Thank you for your perspective. You are absolutly right about it being lonely living with someone like him. He says he checked out 6 years ago and we only have been together for 7 so I really had no chance. I try to talk to him about his leaving me with the kids and that translates to him that I'm saying hes a bad father so I feel like I'm on this endless merry-go-round. I have yet to contact a lawyer but I should. And I have started to go to Al-Anon recently just need extra support right now. Thank you so much for responding!