why does the situation even arise for you?
I find that most likely, if a situation comes to mind when you're considering the topic of amends - then probably it's due an amends.
Things arise for us not just out of the blue or at random - but because a part of US knows exactly what requires an amends.
Nobody can tell you whether you 'have to make amends' except you.
Do you carry resentment, guilt, shame, anger, frustration, fear, uncertainty or other weight because of an event or series of events that you had a hand in? If so - then you probably have something to do in the amends category.
The whole point of amends is to free yourself from the burden of carrying emotional baggage and allow you to step into the light of renewal and freedom from your own self-judgement and your own trapped feelings.
If you reacted to someone in a way that leads you to carry a sense of guilt - then does it really matter who "started it"?
It comes down to what kind of person we want to BE..... and how the actions of our path may or may not align to that..... and to what degree we're able to put that past down and move on.
Sometimes, we may be able to do that through simple, genuine self-forgiveness. Sometimes, we may feel we were justified in our actions - but still need to take an action to bring closure through amends. Sometimes, it's very clear and obvious that amends are needed.
Listen to your own internal wisdom.
What do YOU think is needed?
