A lot of my amends ended up being 'Living' amends. I thought that was great til I realised its an ongoing job and not necessarily the easiest option after all.
Yep, that's true.
I never made an amend to my wife (and my sponsor didn't to his wife either). We've been together over 35 years so there isn't really a specific incident that stands out. And when I was drinking I apologized and said I would stop, blah blah blah . . . about a million times, so making a verbal amend would probably fall on deaf ears.
So a "living" amend was the way I went. It takes some time, but it has worked out well for us. Our marriage is as strong as it's ever been.