I was a bit like you, John. Everyone seemed to call me with their problems. I'd drop everything, listen, help if I could. I should've been addressing my own problems. What I was really doing was running from my own life.
I gave so much of myself away there was nothing left for me. A very hard lesson, I learned.
Maybe use some of your compassion for other people on yourself. You deserve happiness, fill up that empty space with something besides alcohol. I never found a solution or inner peace at the bottom of my glass.
You can change your life. No, it's not easy, but neither is existing and labeling yourself a drunk. You're so much more than that!