Hello honeypig,
I have started counseling and I will be attending a beginners Al-anon meeting soon. I do not want to go through this again. I admit I got defensive with atalose and many comments are hard to hear but I came to this site looking for answers both good and bad. It has been a month since I finally broke up with my "A" (as they seem to be called here) and I think the realization that I have to give up on him is finally hitting me. I guess I thought if he loved me as much as he said he did he would have quit. I am realizing that it is not that easy for them. It is very confusing but the more I read the more I am starting to understand.