Originally Posted by
Minnie973 
I consider myself a smart woman and I am disgusted with myself that I stayed in the relationship for as long as I did.
I could write that exact sentence. I was in the relationship for four years. In the 70s. Dumping him was the best thing I ever did although I'm still disgusted it took four years. Like you I'm grateful we never married. Our wedding was six weeks away when he "had a few beers" after over a year of sobriety. I ended it the next day.