newhope,
not sure how helpful, ultimately, talk of blame and fault is, both yours and his.
i did spend a lot of time there myself,in blame- land.
when i finally did the suggested work, life got so much better from looking at MY part, and changing what i have control of, and , as they say, keeping my side of the street clean.
so...how do you see moving forward sobriety- wise after drinking again?