Anna, thank you so much for bumping Dee's (locked) post below, from 7 years ago (titled "A Public Service Announcement").
Wow.
Incredibly meaningful, wise and real.
Everyone browsing this thread needs to go there right now, read it, take it to heart, save it, memorize it, live it.
How fortunate we are, to have such mentors. So generously reaching out to strangers, struggling, on different continents, all ages, all kinds of people, far flung, but the stories are the same, over and over and over. The damage and patterns and excuses, predictable. The answer so simple, but so hard to hear. Yet you all so patiently try.
Thank you, Dee, Anna, Least, Hevyn.. any moderators I'm missing. I wish I'd been able to "know" CarolD too. Your service is a gift. We are so grateful.