SimplyE, was reading your backstory over in Newcomers. Just wanted to let you know we have a number of members who post here in F&F who are, like you, alcoholics themselves as well as the current or ex-spouse or partner of an A. The term you might hear for that is "double winner."
I'm not sure if you thought an alcoholic might not be welcomed in this part of the forum and that's why you didn't mention that fact, but the more open you are about your situation, the more people here will be able to offer support and help.
Believe me, no one here has anything but respect and support for an A who is working his/her recovery to the best of their ability. I hope you are able to work yours wholeheartedly.