Please know that you don't have to deal with the craziness of lies and hidden bottles - that's no way to live.
In an alcoholic's mind, lies about drinking don't even really count as lies as they think the drinking is their business, not yours. Begging, pleading reasoning - a similar effect can be had by literally talking to the wall of your house.
I also realized my AH had a drinking problem on our honeymoon. It took 20 years for me to take action.
