Sadly 25+ years here. Wish I had left sooner. Al-Anon did help and allow me to listen and talk to others that were dealing with it. I have to say, though I couldn't change/help him I did learn some useful skills to live a better life for myself. I see I need to go back to them and maybe back to the meetings. Listening to others at a few meetings might help. My heart goes out to you. Read though the posts and see what you can glean from others experience.
