Let me join the chorus of others who came back with their tail between their legs to say, "I didn't listen". I stayed and hoped it would get better, and it only got worse. Every time I saw him he had something mean to say about my looks. Finy got the courage to leave and found out I was pregnant. 56 and has never gotten a girl pregnant, or so he said. Shooting blanks, he said.
Wish I had it in me to not tell him. But I did. Now I'm tied to another dysfunctional man for 18 years. Get to watch him verbally abuse our child.
Take it from me, it's not enough to break the pattern of dating addicts. You need to address the root cause of what makes you allow mistreatment. This guy was perfect on paper, but was a nasty son of a b****. I've never been talked to by anyone like I was by him.
Back to the steps.