I married my husband right out of college. He was always "the guy" that drank too much at parties, but everyone drinks a lot in college right? I knew his drinking existed, I just didn't know how big of a problem it would continue to be. 11years, 2 kids later it is still a problem. I have moved out and started the divorce process. I feel blind and wish I would have recognized all this before I got married and before I had kids with him (but I love my kids obviously!!!). I wouldn't waste your time if I were you.