BTW, I knew my second husband was an alcoholic; I married him after a fairly brief period of sobriety, following a near-death experience as a result of his alcoholism. When he immediately went back to drinking, I stuck around for only a few months. I moved out and divorced him a short time later. As far as I know he is still drinking himself to death.
I didn't hate him, I felt compassion for him, but I was NOT going through another deathbed vigil for something he was refusing to address.