Originally Posted by
honeypig 
I suspect the OP is already long gone from here
Nope..
All this "not official" and having "the talk" is stupid semantics. It's pretty clear now I need to end a relationship, not not-enter it.
I haven't done that yet, and that scares me. I also want to talk to him about his drinking, I can't not.
It's all I think about and I can't talk to anyone, I'm lying to myself, and I feel ashamed posting here because I should have RUN FOR THE HILLS last Friday.