It sounds like you're doing great and that you're ready to face some of the hard stuff. I'm not an AA person, but I sure do know what you're talking about. When I took a clear look at myself, I was not the person I had believed I was. Like you, I was controlling and self-centred. My recovery journey has been one of hard work and lots of joy. I learned that I could 'let go' of so many things and that it would all be fine.
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