Viper, I hate to hear about your friend. It's a tough place and there really is no good answer for someone in your position. But, self care has to come first. Again, the whole "put your oxygen mask on first" deal
Axe, my hope is that IOP helps fine-tune whatever your hangup is. Sometimes it just takes that right combination to make it all fall together.
Related note, IOP is the local abbreviation for an area I used to live near on the coast (Isle of Palms). When I first started reading here, I couldn't help but wonder why everyone was checking in at the beach
Probably should've read that sticky more closely ...