Originally Posted by
SparkleKitty 
I was raised by an alcoholic mother and a codependent father. I grew up thinking I wasn't good enough to be loved because my mother was so focused on her addiction and my father was so focused on her, there was nothing left for the rest of us. I grew up thinking there was some magical secret to what I could do, be, or say to win the affection and love of people who were emotionally unavailable to me.
Ditto, but in reverse.... my dad was an alcoholic & drug addict. His FOO has issues with addiction (gambling, alcohol) and extreme codependency/enmeshment.
My mother also suffered sexual abuse & incest & her codependency is so much a part of her that she can't really "see" it at all.
I started learning my Codie ways literally from birth. It's how I thought everyone was raised.