Originally Posted by
atalose 
What might closure look like to you?
It's usually the person who doesn't want to let go that seeks closure from the person who's already left the relationship. I think closure happens right after we accept that letting go and moving on is more important then projecting a fantasy of how the relationship could have been.
((hugs))
That's is a very good question atalose. One that I have asked myself. I believe I'm at the cross road of my mind and heart coming together.
It took a long time to get my head leading the controls over my heart. To make intelligent decisions instead of emotional ones.
Part of that journey was finding who I was again. (I'm still working on that guy.) He would have closed the door, locked it, hammered a few nails and walked away.
I know dealing with addiction changed me. Becoming a father changed me.
Sorting out the good changes from the bad ones seems to be the trick.
Thank you for helping to draw a focus. I need that.
Take care