Originally Posted by
batchel9 
I just want to move on from AH instead of always feeling conflicted / sucked back to him. How do I move on with life and stop looking back??
I think it starts by focusing on how you want your life to look--start making lists of things. Things you'd like to accomplish, dreams you have for your kids. Logistics--things like budgets and other life details. Start visualizing life as a single mom. Some of it will be challenging; some will be freeing. When I left (both times--I had to leave my second alcoholic husband when he went back to drinking), I spent a lot of time visualizing how things might work after I left. You don't have to have every detail figured out, but imagining will help you try on the new role.
The point really is, when you do that you are focused on the here-and-now, and the future, not on the past.