No not me, welcome.
You can ask him to do all those things when he is sober and then watch what happens.
Don't give ultimatums unless you are willing to follow through.
You can spend your time planning activities with him. Though he may say no or start going drunk. Better though is planning activities for you and the children and do it without him. Trial alanon even if its irregular try to go to at least six of them.
Stay focused on yourself and children such as finding a job or going back to school if needed. Start writing a journal of what is going on.
All these are suggestions only you can decide how close you are to divorcing even if its just talking to a lawyer to gain some further information. And keep coming back to SR.