Originally Posted by Hechosedrugs

Thank you all. There was one moment during our first big argument where I looked him in the eyes and said, "I know this. I won't do it again."

It was like the mask slipped. He seems so great, but then the slightest disagreement and man, what an ass.

We've only been together for 3 months, but things were moving so quickly. He talked about marriage from day one, and those talks were becoming more and more intense. I'd moved a bunch of my clothes in and was practically living there. Today while he was at work I moved everything out and left a note. I just said I love how he is with the kids, I love how we are together, but I don't feel that we communicate effectively. He must have come home early, because he called and was very stand-offish. I asked how he was doing and he said, "Oh, I'm good" in the snottiest way possible. Then he said "I'll let you get back" and "Take care". No "I love you", no mention whatsoever of the note.

Guess it's over? Dodged the bullet? Man, it's hard. I really thought I'd gotten lucky- found love on the first try after divorce. Would have been great. But I do know the drill. As Ariesagain said, passive aggression becomes less passive over time.

What's so confusing is in some ways it's the opposite of my ex. Whereas XAH always seemed to say all the right things, but his actions were crappy, this guy's actions were stellar, it's his words that sucked.

Funny, that.